Being "self-centred" is a necessity!

If you want to be happy, healthy, and successful, it is important to put yourself first.

For many of us as women, the very idea of being self-centred feels uncomfortable. From a young age, we’ve been taught to be the nurturers, the givers, the ones who put everyone else’s needs first.

After the kids, after the clients, after the family and friends, after the housework and the cooking… only then, maybe, do we consider ourselves. And by then, there’s often nothing left.

But here’s the truth: being self-centred is not selfish. In fact, being self-centred is essential.

Self-Centred vs. Selfish

We often confuse these two words, but they are not the same:

• Selfishness is when we put our needs ahead of others to their detriment. It’s the “I win, you lose” approach.

• Being self-centred, however, means standing in the very centre of your own life. It’s about remembering that you are the conductor of your own orchestra, the driver of your own vehicle, and that you influence and create every aspect of your reality.

Therefore, we need to be in the centre of our lives. It is the position of true empowerment — in the centre, controlling, influencing, and managing all the various aspects of our lives.

Why It Matters for Women

As women, many of us have been conditioned to feel guilty for prioritizing ourselves. We’ve been praised for sacrifice, even martyrdom.

Yet martyrdom is the shadow side of femininity. It’s the ugly underbelly of giving — when we give not from fullness, but from a need to feel valued. We give in order to be appreciated, to be told we’re wonderful.

And when that recognition doesn’t come? Resentment, anger, and bitterness creep in.

To thrive, we need to reprogram and re-socialize ourselves. We need to embrace the truth that we are not here to be martyrs. We are here to be powerful creators.

An Analogy: Filling the Car

Think of yourself as a car. You cannot run on an empty tank. No matter how badly you want to get others to their destinations, if you don’t stop and fill up, you go nowhere.

Your energy, joy, and well-being are your fuel.If you don’t stop regularly to top up, you end up stalled on the side of the road — burnt out, resentful, and running on fumes.

What Filling Up Looks Like

Filling up doesn’t have to be big or complicated. It can be:

• Ten minutes of meditation or conscious breathing

• A walk in nature

• Journaling with a cup of tea

• Painting, dancing, or doing something creative

• Saying “no” when you need to

• Taking a bubble bath

• Having a massage

• Simply resting

  
  

A Call to Action

So, here’s the challenge for you, beautiful women of The Pink Sphere:

• What do you do daily, weekly, and monthly just for yourself, in order to fill your tank?

• How can you commit to being more self-centred — not as an act of selfishness, but as an act of empowerment?

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How This Connects to the Law of Attraction

When you put yourself at the centre — when you love, nurture, and fill yourself up — your vibration rises. You become magnetic.

Things flow more easily. Opportunities align. Relationships flourish. Your life becomes more joyful, graceful, and abundant.

You are now creating from a place of fullness and abundance. You give more easily, more joyfully, and with more love.

And the Universe responds in kind, bringing more flow, more ease, and more abundance into your life.

Because here’s the secret:

You are the centre of your universe.And when you shine, everything else falls into place.